There will be okay days. Days when nothing is really wrong,
and maybe some things even seem a little bit right. There will be days of
blankness. Complete nothingness. You’ll feel entirely unaffected, almost
catatonic. Like someone could punch you in the face and you’d just stand there
staring into the void. There will be days when you’ll sob and scream in agony
all by yourself. These will be the days when you envision yourself at the
bottom of the deepest, darkest abyss with absolutely no way to escape. These will
be the days that the length and the magnitude and the misunderstanding of your
illness will nearly crush you. Maybe on some of these days, you’ll end up in
the emergency room. There will be doctors everywhere asking you the same
questions over and over again. You’ll truly believe that no one can help you.
Maybe they’ll even admit you. They’ll take your shoes and your phone and
anything you could harm yourself with and put you in a room with a security
camera next to someone who was committed by a court order that morning. But you
won’t stay there long. You’ll go home in a day or two or seven with a little
more resolve, a little more fight. You’ll spend several days a week in
appointments trying to find your way back. You’ll look for answers—a new drug,
a new therapist, a miracle. You’ll find some of the relief you’ve been looking
for eventually. The new drug will work, the new therapist will understand you,
the new activities you’ve found to distract yourself will help. You’ll sleep
soundly at night. You’ll enjoy your favorite sandwich again. The color will return to your face and the
sparkle to your eyes. You’ll see everything more clearly. You’ll realize who
you are apart from all the noise. You’ll live to fight another day and
tomorrow, the fight won’t be so difficult.
Over the course of all of this, some people will hurt you,
try to destroy you even. Do things to you that cause unimaginable pain on top
of all the pain that already plagues your mind and soul. Others will help you,
hold you, comfort you. They’ll say little things that you’ll lock away inside
of you, remind yourself of when your own destructive thoughts start creeping
in. You’ll be so keenly aware that their presence may be all that keeps you
from collapsing in on yourself like a star in its final stages of life. But in
the end, your friends, your family, your doctors, your acupuncturist, your
therapist, your yoga teacher, your minister, your rabbi, your counselor will
not save you. You will save yourself.
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